Shift Your Mindset
This is one of my favorite sections!! I want to empower you so that you can stand firm in your value. When you are confident you can begin to create the life you want. I know this first hand!! Here are some steps to help build your confidence:
Our self-esteem is partly a result of how others treated us in the past, the second step to more healthy self-esteem and increased confidence is to treat yourself as a worthwhile person.
- Start to challenge past negative experiences or messages by nurturing and caring for yourself in ways that show that you are valuable, competent, deserving and lovable. There are several parts to self- nurturing:
- Practice basic self-care. Get enough sleep, eat healthy foods, exercise regularly, practice good hygiene, etc.
- Plan fun & relaxing things for yourself. Go to a movie, take a nap, get a massage, plant a garden, buy a pet, learn to meditate, or whatever you enjoy.
- Reward yourself for your accomplishments. Take the night off to celebrate, spend time with a friend, or compliment yourself for making that difficult phone call.
- Remind yourself of your strengths & achievements. Make a list of things you like about yourself. Or keep a 'success' file of awards, certificates and positive letters or citations. Keep mementos of accomplishments you are proud of where you can see them.
- Forgive yourself when you don't do all you'd hoped. Nurturing yourself can be surprisingly hard if you are not used to doing it. Don't be critical of yourself; remember that inner voice when you don't do it just right.
- Nurture yourself even when you don't feel you deserve it. "Fake it" until you can "make it." When you treat yourself as if you deserve to feel good and be nurtured, over time you'll come to believe it.
Get Help From Others
Although I discuss it in the lecture, I wanted to repeat it here. Getting help from others is an important step to take to improve low self-esteem, but it can also be the most difficult. People with low self-esteem often won't ask for help because they feel they don't deserve it. But since low self-esteem is often caused by how other people treated you in the past, you may need the help of other people in the present to challenge the critical messages that come from negative past experiences. Here are some ways to get help from others:
- Ask for Support from Friends. Ask friends to tell you what they like about you or think you do well.
- Ask someone who cares about you just to listen to you "vent" for a little while without trying to "fix" things.
- Ask for a hug.
- Ask those who love you to remind you that they do.
Talk to a Therapist or Counselor. Sometimes low self-esteem can feel so painful or difficult to overcome that the professional help of a therapist or counselor is needed. Talking to a professional is a good way to learn more about your self- esteem issues and begin to improve your self-esteem.
A woman who feels good about herself:
- Is open to learning
- Grows from life’s lessons
- Views problems as opportunities
- Solves problems effectively
- Expresses her thoughts and feelings
- Accepts all parts of herself
- Focuses more on her potential than her ‘limitations’
- Works to shift from ineffective behaviors to effective ones
- Takes responsibility for her own life
- Takes care of herself
- Allows herself to make mistakes and looks for the lessons therein
- Isn’t afraid to ask for help when she needs it
- Accepts others as they are
- Is able to forgive herself and others as needed
Do you feel good about yourself?
Take the time to write out all of the great things about you. This should be an ongoing list, as each day I hope you will uncover something new and exciting about the wonderful person you are! As you remember those great character traits that God gave you, write down the things you have done or are doing that affirm those positive qualities. This can also be a practice that you include in your "Daily Routine."
Example of my inner resource tool kit. Who am I?:
1. I’m loveable
2. I’m deserving
3. I’m intelligent
4. I’m organized
5. I’m trustworthy
6. I’m a nice person who cares about the needs of others
7. I’m enough
8. I’m a good team player
9. I’m a leader
10. I’m creative
The unique and special gift I bring to my business is my ability to connect with people on an emotional level. I can engage people in a way that helps them to feel comfortable with me and trust me. My organization skills assist me in being on time for appointments showing my clients I value their time. My unique creativity helps me style my client’s hair in ways that make them feel good and I’m fast. Therefore I add the value of time to my clients appointments. Additionally, my doctorate in the area of Trichology highlights my intelligence and ability to help clients find solutions to their hair and scalp problems.
Now it's your turn:
List 10 things you have in your inner resource tool kit that describes the truth about who you are
Ex- The Unique and special gifts I bring to my business are:
NOW POST YOUR ANSWERS IN THE COMMENT SECTION BELOW AND SHARE WITH ALL OF US HOW AMAZING YOU ARE!!
One last thing...In addition to practicing some of the things I discuss in this lecture here is a reprint of the list of the recommended books to help support the transformation of your mind.
- “The Miracle Morning” by Hal Elrod
- “The Untethered Soul" by Michael A. Singer
- “Secrets of the Millionaire Mind” by T. Harv Eker